The course of true love never did run smooth. Living with herpes doesn’t mean losing the chance of getting a true love. We all know that more things should be considered while stepping into a date for people living with herpes. How to tell my partner that I have herpes? Will I be rejected? Will I be discriminated? Will he/she tell others my secret? Will I pass the virus to my partner if he/she can accept my situation? Blah blah blah. So many confused questions. There will be no reason unless you ask them out. Different people have the different situation. But we summarize the 4 common things that people should not do while dating with herpes.
1. Cheat Your Partner and Unfaithful
We met a lot of cases that people got herpes from their pre-partners who didn’t tell their situation before sex. It’s very anxiety and sad. You don’t want your partner like you and you don’t want you to be the abused one, right? Then tell your partner about your situation before sex and don’t cheat them.
Honest people deserve more respects and love. If your partner can’t accept, end the relation before you falling deeper. If you partner tell the secret out, why you love such person? Herpes is normal nowadays. 776,000 people in the United States get new herpes infections annually, according to CDC.
So be honest and faithful to your partners while dating with herpes. They are essential to finding a true love.
2. Unsafe Sex
Herpes infections are transmitted through contact with lesions, mucosal surfaces, genital secretions, or oral secretions. HSV-1 and HSV-2 can also be shed from skin that looks normal, from CDC report. There is no doubt that condom can reduce the chance of spreading of herpes. Don’t allow contact without the condom or during an outbreak. If you are living with herpes, you don’t want your partner to experience the same situation, right?
3. Discriminate or Judge Your Partner Easily
Many people living with herpes have been hurt by their pre-partners. Some of them became sensitive and emotional. It will affect your next relationship and it’s not fair to your partner. I knew a girl who was cheated by her ex-boyfriend and got herpes from him. She was so sad and wrote us that she even can’t communicate with others like before, especially to boys. I knew her feelings inside. It’s not easy to escape from the shadow of cheat behavior. But people is not all the same. We should give other people, and ourselves another new chance. Always reminds yourself that you face a new partner in a brand-new relationship. Be calm and fair.
4. Avoid Talking about Herpes
Herpes is not so horrible like most people thought. It’s not a monster or the end of the world. So don’t avoid talking about it with your partner. Of course, we should know more herpes information, including herpes symptoms, herpes treatment, and medical information etc. It will be helpful to deal with herpes. At the same time, we can tell our partner things about herpes during daily life. They should know the true situation, right? Things can become better if you two work together.
We’d like to make herpes life easier. But we know there is not so much we can do for people with herpes. If this article can help you a little, it would be a great honor for us. We welcome any feedback from you, no matter you are newly diagnosed or met problem on dating with herpes.